From Chosen Children 2016
Despite rhetoric by both Conservative and Liberal politicians about America's children and families, and despite families taking to the streets decrying "government protected mass child stealing" due to unnecessary removals and forced adoption and foster placements by Child Protective Services and corrupt family courts, this major issue has been kept from the national conscience via AdoptSpeak and Censorship -- the controlling of terminology -- and industry financed politicians.
Words are powerful weapons as outlined in the GOP's manual, “GOPAC Language: A Key Mechanism of Control” -- words such as: "abuse of power, betray, corrupt, criminal, radical, red tape, socialized," used in speeches, thus exemplifying a “good moral psychologist” who is at the same time as “hypocritical” as any politician.
Similarly, The Adoption Information Institute, headquartered in Bennington, Vermont, promotes their "Journalist's Guide To Adoption" indicating a contributor to the book is Adam Pertman, an adoptive parent and Executive Director of the Evan B. Donaldson Institute, an adoption think tank. The Institute claims that their “Guide” is the “best unbiased resource and research to help journalists understand the adoption process and ethical adoption practices.” But, perhaps as an attempt to satisfy all sides, it states that it was written so that journalists will “use more accurate and appropriate language,” and “determine when adoption is germane to coverage.” However, The "Guide" emphasizes “the crisis in foster care, teen parenting and infant homicide” -- buzz words used by the adoption industry as a scare tactic to promote adoption as "rescuing" children and preventing abortion (totally unrelated issues) yet it never mentioned the alarming rates of failed, disrupted, dissolved adoptions, nor of adopters returning, murdering, re-homing or institutionalizing their adopted children. Similarly, The National Council For Adoption sealed records lobby of Christian adoption agencies, not a government agency, publishes "The Adoption Factbook" which is just a collection of essays by pro-adoption propagandists, whereas "The Adoption and Donor Conception Factbook" published by Clearfield Books in 2015, provides both governmental and private sector data for comparison, with sources noted. It is obvious that the adoption industry and CPS which receives state and federal cash for increasing unnecessary removal of children for foster and adoption placements, and media, are complicit in promulgating half truths and lies through the use of AdoptSpeak.
Even adoption reform activists differ on "appropriate adoption language." Since 1976, when pioneer adoption reform activist, Lee Campbell, chose "Concerned United Birthparents (CUB)" for her organization's name, parents who had lost children to adoption came out of the closet, empowered by their group identity as "birthparents" to publicly tell their stories of loss and pain. Today, many adoption reform activists, including some former CUB members, "ban" the term "birthmother" from their groups' posts on social media, equating "birthmother" with "breeder." But to assure clarity, they also use "first mother," “natural or biological mother,” "b-mom," while people who adopt are "adoptive parents," "adopters," "psychological parents," and some journalists have been known to transform them into "stepmothers" rather than risk any adoption terminology.
“Adoption Censorship" is the deliberate banning of certain adoption language and stereotyping the biological parents as unfit in story lines. When Warner Brothers' began to promote it's planned Fall-2001 sitcom, “Maybe I’m Adopted,” about a teenager who had a zany family, drunken father, and sometimes wondered if "maybe I'm adopted," little did Warner Brothers anticipate the firestorm of protest by organized adoption supporters, since the name suggests that adoptive families could be less than perfect, and “Maybe I’m Adopted” was immediately re-named “Maybe It’s Me.” (“WB’s Sitcom Slammed,” Variety, 6-5-01). This, the late George Carlin would probably have said, required updating his famous satirical standup routine “Seven Dirty Words You Can’t Say On TV” to “Eight Words” including “Adoption.”
In another example, Wikipedia, "The Internet Encyclopedia," lists many serial killers with mention of their adoptive status; nevertheless, pressure must have come to bear with regard to Wikipedia’s removal of a contributor’s mention of “adopted murderers” in an article that Wikipedia evidently had first published but then edited with the following explanation: “Adoptee murderers removed from the article. Quite a many people are adoptees, so of course you're going to find them among murderers as well. As such, this remark proves nothing and only accounts to sensationalism” (by Timo Honkasalo 13:59, 29 Oct 2004, UTC). Honkasalo neither defines “quite as many” nor indicates the source of his conclusions. Thus, these adoptees' negative outcomes are swept under the rug of AdoptSpeak and Censorship.
Wikipedia’s page on "Adopted Child Syndrome" states “the term ["Adopted Child Syndrome"] has never achieved acceptance in the professional community” but omits the fact that it has been a historically significant theory used as a defense that saved some adoptees from the Death Penalty.
Toy companies and adoption businesses have learned that pitching adoption to kids increases sales. When the Coleco toy company began mass-marketing dolls as “Cabbage Patch Kids” that came with "adoption papers," now-adult adoptees who, in 1983 received one as a Christmas present, said the doll, coupled with absence of a known birth story and true birth certificate was debilitating. At some point pet stores and pounds made “adopt a pet” part of the vernacular, followed by “adopt-a-highway”campaigns. According to Jeff Siler, ParentGallery.com, a website where couples wanting to adopt can post pictures and videos online. “Today's teens and young adults looking for prospective adopters for their babies are more tech savvy than before. Even before teens talk to an adoption agency, they may already be trying to Google for an answer online."
The bottom line is that America can do better for its children, but only when honest dialog replaces AdoptSpeak and Censorship.
Lori Carangelo has authored over 600 published articles and more than 20 unique non-fiction adoption-themed and true crime books on Amazon, resulting from her adoption reform activism and over 20,000 adoptee-parent reunions she and her national volunteer network, Americans For Open Records, facilitated without charge.