My name is Chris. I have 6 kids. CPS adopted my kids out. How can I get the records opened so I can see my kids so they know I care, meet the family they live with, and know if my kids are OK? CPS took my baby from the hospital. I'm trying to get him placed with my family. I think about my kids every day. I live here in Ccanton, Ohio. My e-mail is cantonmom6kids@yahoo.com
Name:
Gabriella
Location:
Boston, MA
Comment:
0999
Friday, 27 February 2009 - 02:57:07am
On behalf of the stolen children who were sold in adoption I post this. Guatemala was a wonderland for adopters and, for the right price, the most dysfuctional US citzens were able to adopt stolen babies. Of course when the media exposed the corruption these adopters were in an uproar denying the corruption. How do these adopters sleep nights knowing that there is a heartbroken mother and family crying nightly for their baby/child? I hope these stolen children let their adopters know how wrong this is and dis-own them when they are old enough. I am so glad Guatemala closed their adoptions, other countries should take their lead.
Name:
Linda Butler Email:
Location:
Trenton, NJ
Comment:
0998
Wednesday, 25 February 2009 - 10:13:02pm
I am the adoptive mother of 2 young adults who are suffering terribly with the effects of adoption grief. Please find another way to support birth mothers and their families so that they do not have to surrender their children for adoption.
Name:
stephanie malaspina Email:
Location:
MERCED, ca UNITED STATES
Comment:
0997
Thursday, 12 February 2009 - 06:05:55am
Two adopters in Modesto, Calif. were murdered by their adopted son last week. Everyone was shocked who knew them. They were such nice people. Another victim of adoption will be imprisoned for life because of the cruelty of adoption. I am a reunited birthmother. I would give anything to go back and keep my son. Everyone got screwed by the system, including the people who adopted him believing an adoptee would be just like a natural child. The lies go on. They must stop to save lives.
Name:
Karen Email:
Location:
New Orleans, LA USA
Comment:
0996
Wednesday, 11 February 2009 - 02:03:53am
I am a birth mother of a son born 11-7-1972. I have never fogotten him and want to find him. I was told lies and false statements. Yes, this needs change.
Name:
maria hawthorne Email:
Location:
mississippi, usa pearl
Comment:
0995
Tuesday, 3 February 2009 - 01:23:00am
i am going thru something concerning adoption behind my back.
My daughter has been kidnapped and sold by an Adoption Assistance Agency
Name:
Michele Mallin Email:
Location:
Baytown, Texas Harris
Comment:
0993
Monday, 26 January 2009 - 09:25:49pm
I am an adult adoptee who has had an extremely dysfunctional adoptive family due to being raised by a very manipulative and selfish adopter "mother." My adoptive father even left her after less than 20 years because she was making his life so miserable. I believe that adoption should be abolished and that people who would like to care for children should be granted guardianship under the knowledge that these children have families and heritages and may want to know about them one day. No child should be forced to live with an unfit adopter the way that I have.
Name:
Helyn Raymond Email:
Location:
Sacramento, Ca. USA
Comment:
0992
Monday, 26 January 2009 - 03:05:37am
Yes Please stop this buying & selling of humans. I lost my only child to adoption in 1970. I wanted to keep my baby. They worked on me for a whole week until I signed the papers. I hate being a birthmother, I hate being childless! I want my baby back!
Name:
adrian lucien Email:
Location:
allentown, pa
Comment:
0991
Thursday, 15 January 2009 - 06:41:15am
i think that this is a really crazy law because i am a adoptee. i have been searching for my birth mother for the last 6 years and have not had any success with this because of the laws and the lack of financial support. another reason that i am doing this is because my adoptive mother told me later on in life that my bio-mother came back to try and get me back after giving me up for adoption. i am very distraught with not knowing who my real family are or who i am.
My support is to open medical information ; genetic history ; living relatives ; help in reuniting moms. Why must this be such an expensive and difficult (cult) turmoil!!
Name:
DAN-YELL LIATY Email:
Location:
ATHOL, ID USA
Comment:
0989
Friday, 19 December 2008 - 08:16:49pm
STOP THIS MADNESS
Name:
Stephanie Van Loon Email:
Location:
Spring, Tx.
Comment:
0988
Monday, 15 December 2008 - 09:09:24pm
I lost my son to adoption 18 years ago and it was the biggest mistake I made, or will ever make in my life. To anyone out there that may be contemplating surrendering your child, don't do it. Your child needs YOU.
Name:
Flor Email:
Location:
Harker Heights, TX Bell
Comment:
0987
Thursday, 27 November 2008 - 05:09:59am
I am appalled by some of the messsages left on this petition. My best friend is Denise Miller from Universal City and I have been witness to how the "system" being steered by the God-like agency known as CPS, has emotionally and psychologically drained her and her family. In certain instances, (such as kinship adoption) adoption could be a good option but not when it is done with the intent to harm someone physically, or mentally, and not when it is done with the intent to deceive. Their granddaughter is being raised by a family of strangers that are not related to her at all. The injustice being arbitrarily conducted by the adoption system has got to come to an end. No one is taking into consideration the welfare, or well-being, of the children being put at risk.
my three kids got taken away from me back in 1998 and i would love to have an open adoption law before they turn 18 - please help me to find my babies
Name:
Patty Schlossberg Email:
Location:
Framingham, MA USA
Comment:
0985
Saturday, 8 November 2008 - 10:18:41pm
I was taken away from my natural parents when I was 10 months old. My biological parents were married but were having domestic issues that psychiatric help would have helped. They couldn't afford it. The State also took my seven siblings from them. I was placed in several foster homes before being adopted to a family where the father was an alcholic, though he later stopped drinking, and a mother who has bipolar along with a host of other mental illnesses that were neatly swept under the carpet when they did the home study. They have two children of their own; I am six months older than their oldest child. Since my adoption, that sister has resented me for "stealing" her postion in the family, and my a/mother has blamed me for all their problems and has labled me "the black sheep." I Hate being adopted, and I cringe whenever anyone tells me how "Special" I am "because I am adopted!" How sick is that? My adopted siblings all had painful adoptions too. I now have a husband and daughter, and I am determined to break the cycle that happened in my generation. Please, abolish adoption -- it is not to fullfill the needs of the kids, it is soley for the needs of the so-called adults!
Name:
Barbara Kay Bue Email:
Location:
ANoka, MN USA
Comment:
0984
Thursday, 30 October 2008 - 08:07:15am
Please abolish adoption.
Name:
jody A. Lunsford Noland Email:
Location:
new hudson, michigan united states
Comment:
0983
Friday, 17 October 2008 - 03:40:19am
I have a daughter now 17. While married to my first husband, he took her into hiding together with a woman who was also married. They were having an affair and were given my baby girl when she was 4 months old. I was breast-feeding her when he asked to take her to his mother's home. She was allergic to soy and any other type of baby milk that was not breast milk. The lady had shots to produce milk (sick). I was 16 years old when this happened and the law in Kentucky required that I have a legal guardian. I never got my baby back. She was legally kidnapped. I miss her every day. They named her Katlin Lee Smith and she goes to South Laurel High School in London, Kentucky. I want to meet her and let her know I wanted her and still do, and that I love her and miss her every day!
I am aware of the lifelong effects of the trauma of being adopted, adoption is not a favour to a child, unfortunately it is trafficking in children.
Name:
Patricia A. Roe Email:
Location:
Lancaster, Ohio U.S.A.
Comment:
0981
Thursday, 2 October 2008 - 00:33:10am
I'm a Native Indian adoptee, who was sold to adoptive parents. According to my adoptive father, his purpose for adopting me was to make me his wife's replacement. Their violence towards me included tying me to a post in the garage and beating me with a board, then leaving me in the cold for hours on the bare concrete floor. They knew I was born with Epilepsy but never disclosed this to me. They beat me to try to force me to deny that I was Native Indian. The county is discriminating against me and keeping my adoption file from me. The same is true of the state dept of vital records even though Ohio law states that my records are open to me if i was adopted prior to 1964, which I was. I have an identical twin sister I wasn't raised with. My adoptive father has a very long "rap sheet" with the federal government and had this when he adopted me. He's abused me my whole life in many ways and is still threatening my life because I witnessed his many criminal acts. His threats on my life began when I was about 25 years old when it was discovered by doctors that I had a photographic memory. The county knew very well that my adoptive father was connected with local organized crime as well. They also knew my adoptive father poured ether down my throat at the doctor's office which caused me to be hospitalized for over a month when I was young. He's tried to kill me on several occasions and so has my adoptive mother. I believe I was given to them because I was Native Indian. They told me how the county was keeping an eye on me because of my ancestor Chief Tecumseh. They said they had to be strict with me because they didn't want history repeating itself. I was adopted twice because the first adoptive mother was having an affair and I told my adoptive dad about it when he asked me. Her lover was my second adoptive father. It's much worse than what I've written here but that's the gist of it. I hope someone stops adoption abuse once and for all and reunites families taken apart for only being Native Indian, like my own.
I am a Grandmother who lost her first Grandchild to "Open Adption". The "Open" portion lasted as long as it took for everything to be legal. This should be verrry illegal.
Name:
Amanda Rodgers Email:
Location:
Centerville, TN USA
Comment:
0979
Wednesday, 17 September 2008 - 02:01:40pm
Please consider this as my signature on tis petition.
Name:
denise miller Email:
Location:
universal city, tx usa
Comment:
0978
Tuesday, 9 September 2008 - 09:05:59pm
we are grandparents fighting in court for custody with strangers for our granddaughter. although we have had her older sibling for 3 years. due to cps not informing us about the real situation. cps recommended that these strangers adopt our granddaughter. we are now fighting in civil court and have a psychologist recommendation that the best interest of isabella is with her family.
This State-sponsored child kidnapping violates all of our Constitional rights. Start with the 14th Amendment... Whatever criteria they are using, it is never applied equally to everyone. It all becomes personal. In the process of stealing the children and protecting foster and adoptive "parents", all the Constitutional rights of the real parents will be violated. The 1st, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th and 8th. WHERE ARE THE ATTORNEYS! Catherine Courtney
Name:
John McGuigan Email:
Location:
cranford, nj usa
Comment:
0976
Tuesday, 2 September 2008 - 07:19:12pm
I ALWAYS HATED BEING AN ADOPTED PERSON.TO THIS DAY I AM STILL DENIED MY ORIGINAL BIRTH CERTIFICATE BY THE STATE OF NEW YORK.THANK YOU HILLARY CLINTON FOR DOING NOTHING TO HELP ADOPTED AMERICANS.IF I COULD ABOLISH ADOPTION THIS VERY SECOND I WOULD BUT PEOPLE THINK THEY'RE HELPING UNFORTUNATE BABIES.THEY'RE COMPLETELY DELUSIONAL.ADOPTION WAS THE WORST THING TO HAPPEN TO ME.
Name:
david becknell Email:
Location:
jonesboror, ar usa
Comment:
0975
Tuesday, 2 September 2008 - 05:24:27pm
adoption is no different than slavery
Name:
Stephanie Baker Email:
Location:
Austin, TX USA
Comment:
0974
Friday, 29 August 2008 - 11:03:13pm
17 years ago, when i was 19, I was pregnant and alone. Terrified by my lack of maturity, job, home, family, I chose "open adoption". None of the agreements were kept and I lived in denial, just so I could have the occasional blurry photo and repeated letter. Last week I learned by accident, via internet, that my DAUGHTER is serverly depressed, doesn't have faith in anything, has no heroes, finds herself unlovable, stupid, etc. and posts images of women shooting themselves with a logo "would you notice?"...It all came flooding back...all the anxiety, the coercion, the pressure, the heartache, depression and grief over the years since. She is feeling it too... I thought and was told repeatedly, "She is better off."No, she's not. I never was and neither is she... and so I began searching for websites, studies, articles, books...as I so wish had been available to me 17 years ago. It all told me what I know is the truth. Now, I am up against the daunting task of trying to re-establish a relationship with my daughter -- which I was SUPPOSED to have all along as well as with her parents. I need to save her, as i tried to do and thought I did 17 years ago...Its going to be just as hard if not harder now. The information was there in 1991 but no one gave me that information...They just wanted my baby and could have cared less...And these are the people I entrusted to protect and love her. It should have been me all along...The heartache is indescribable :*(
Adoption is making this country into a horror story. Someone needs to stop it. Catherine Courtney
Name:
wraith knight Email:
Location:
walsall, westmidlands england
Comment:
0970
Sunday, 3 August 2008 - 11:46:11am
i live in England and I'm going to lose all rights to my daughter because of my girlfreind's past history. even though she has access to her daughter through a diffrent partner. Our family center has 100% adoption rate. Social Services here has consistantly lied about our situation even though I had a working agreement to move back into my flat after I was looking after her at my mother's. Now it looks like I wont be able to see her till im 53!
Name:
Misty Email:
Location:
Las Vegas, NV USA
Comment:
0969
Friday, 1 August 2008 - 07:53:29pm
Our children were taken from us, for what boils down to the biggest issue -- being poor. Now we get no information about them when it is being freely shared with distant family members. Even after adoption, my sister in law is getting paid $30,000 a year to raise kids who were never for one instant unwanted by their parents. It would have taken a fraction of that cost to give us a hand up. This system is so broken, will it ever be fixed when the people that are being victimized don't have money to fight?
Name:
Robyn Cohen Email:
Location:
Montrose, Tasmania Australia
Comment:
0968
Friday, 25 July 2008 - 12:27:40pm
I lost my baby to adoption in 1969 in Australia. I have been diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and unresolved complicated grief; I have had counseling for three years and have been seeing a psychologist for the past 8 months to help me deal with the loss of my baby and the trauma I suffered during delivery and my hospital stay. Adoption damages mothers and their babies.
Name:
Rebecca Griffin Email:
Location:
Kissimmee, FL USA
Comment:
0967
Sunday, 20 July 2008 - 08:32:13pm
I am an adoptee and my records are sealed. I feel as though my rights were removed from me unjustly (compared to a non-adopted person) as I wasn't even old enough to talk and speak up for myself. Why must I be bound to anonymity because of another person's decision? I fully support changes to the current adoption system.
Name:
Deanna Carlson
Location:
CHARLOTTE, NC USA
Comment:
0966
Sunday, 20 July 2008 - 03:07:19am
The injustice to adoptees/real parents of what has been considered a "feel good solution " is dispicable. The evidence now accumulated, which attests that adoption is not the solution, is overwhelming. What will it take - another 75 years for them to make sure that they are no longer around and cannot be further affected by the fallout of this very bad idea ?
Name:
Jackie Hausler Email:
Location:
Medina, Ohio USA
Comment:
0965
Sunday, 20 July 2008 - 01:58:59am
I was adopted at the age of 6 months with sealed records. I was then physically abused for years by my adoptive parents. Because of the year and state I was born in, I can never obtain my records. This has negativly affected my life. I believe adoption laws should be based on the needs of the child rather than the convenience of the birth/adoptive parents and the lagal professionals involved.
Name:
Lynne Tolleson
Location:
O fallon, MO USA
Comment:
0964
Monday, 14 July 2008 - 04:06:05pm
My sisterinlaw gave guardianship to her mother, for her 2 boys. Her mother claims she adopted the boys now and with records being sealed, no way to find out for sure if this is the truth. Time to step up and open the records for all to see, or abolish adoption altogether. I should add her rights as far as I can find have NOT been terminated, even when she gave guardianship. And would love to know what coguardianship is.
Name:
Cathleen Email:
Location:
Tucson, AZ US
Comment:
0963
Thursday, 12 June 2008 - 09:51:02pm
no more trauma for babies and children
Name:
Susan Ann Kunsman Email:
Location:
arizona, usa
Comment:
0962
Tuesday, 10 June 2008 - 01:27:58pm
CPS took my grandchildren from my daughter from daycare for supposedly being dirty and not having the right clothing on. They want to adopt them out. We have been fighting for 2 yrs to get them back.
Name:
Tori Baker Email:
Location:
Vancouver, WA USA
Comment:
0961
Wednesday, 4 June 2008 - 03:22:13am
I am an adoptee who has happily reunited with my birth mother and 7 siblings at the age of 49, after 30 years searching. I am so angry at the states for turning around legislation that was intended to protect and enable reunion when the adoptee became an adult. No promises were made to birthmothers for privacy. We have become the criminals not the innocent party. Adoption agencies have alot to hide. They are afraid the world will find out the horrendous secrets they have kept hidden. May they all burn in hell, everyone associated with the eternal secret keeping.
Name:
Ann Williamson Email:
Location:
baton rouge, louisiana ascension
Comment:
0960
Tuesday, 3 June 2008 - 01:24:11pm
I was adopted and then dropped off at a group home at 13....and I'm told by my adoptive parents they don't know anything about me... and the judge denied my request for disclosure. Now I'm let out in the world with no one. PO Box 73, Gonzales, Louisiana70707
My children were taken from a two parent household and given to their aunt who has shown over and over again that she can't properly take care of the needs of our son who has juvenile diabetes. We are in constant fear for the well being of our son. And how will we know if he dies or goes blind or his kidneys fail because of her incompetence? The system that is supposed to protect children is so broken that it seems beyond repair. Who can protect our children when they are taken from loving, bonded homes and placed with supposedly well meaning relatives or strangers and mistreated beyond the comprehension of the people that brought them into the world? There is no feeling more helpless than having chidren that you would give your life for without a second thought being permanently ripped from your arms by an agency that seems to have no comprehension of the best interests of our chidren.
Name:
michael marek Email:
Location:
lucerne, ca usa
Comment:
0956
Wednesday, 21 May 2008 - 07:26:30am
I am an adoptee myself. I understand the plight of unable parents but the way things are handled, especially through independant adoption, is ridiculous. My ex girlfriend relinquished my 4 month old daughter to an independant agengy without my consent and it is so difficult to contest it and get her back, thanks to the independant adoption community making my baby girl into a commodity. Independant adoption appears to be baby brokerage disguised as something heartfelt and moral.
Name:
Tony Kot Email:
Location:
Brockway, Pa USA
Comment:
0955
Monday, 19 May 2008 - 06:00:01am
Enough is enough. It's time to stop the harm to natural mothers and their children at the expense of another dollar made.
I am a reunited adoptee who found my first mother just 7 months after she passed away with cancer. I have a relationship with my birth siblings and I am one of the lucky ones who has had a reunion with a happy ending. I support open records and the end of closed adoptions as we know it.
Name:
Crystal Pennamon Email:
Location:
houston, texas usa
Comment:
0953
Monday, 12 May 2008 - 05:50:41pm
There needs to be change.
Name:
marilyn eckler Email:
Location:
rockledge, pa united states
Comment:
0952
Thursday, 1 May 2008 - 07:31:20pm
my son was born in 1963. i had nowhere else to go but back home.... didn't have a job and thought adoption was my only way out.... today he is 43 and i know i'll probably never find him. it is really sad
Name:
Catherine Robinson Email:
Location:
Kansas City, USA MO
Comment:
0951
Saturday, 19 April 2008 - 03:22:32pm
My son was taken from me nearly 18 years ago. Never in my life have I wanted more than to have my son back. He was not raised by amazingly wonderful people....just rich ones who could afford to steal a baby from an uneducated, uninformed teenage girl.
Name:
Jane Doe
Location:
Boulder, CO
Comment:
0950
Saturday, 19 April 2008 - 02:22:27pm
We need to abolish social work as well. Social workers just make mountains out of molehills and they abuse power every day which harms children and does not protect them. Things need to go back to how they were when the Florence Crittenton Homes were first founded--Single mothers who were encouraged to keep their babies, got help and support while being able to live their with their babies for up to two years instead of immoral social workers manipulating their flesh and blood away from them. Social workers should be in jail for slander, for stealing, and for abuse. The United States needs to see the truth about how horrible adoption is for birth parents and adopted people and ignore the stupid movies and tv shows that lie about it. If teenagers have a baby, then it should be automatic that they get help from their parents and she should keep her baby as the baby is a FAMILY MEMBER, who deserves love and acceptance. Each family member is precious and just as important as any other, and no one should be kicked out of or taken away from a family-adoption is one of the evilest, horrific systems in this country, along with social work and both systems need to be abolished. It is time to rise up and rebel and take the power away from the sick people in these industries that never deserved it, along with severely punishing them for the hell they have caused others.
Name:
Cassi Ward Email:
Location:
Broomfield, CO USA
Comment:
0949
Wednesday, 9 April 2008 - 06:12:00pm
Enough is enough. It's time to stop the harm to natural mothers and their children at the expense of another dollar made.
Name:
sharon davis Email:
Location:
madera, ca us
Comment:
0948
Monday, 7 April 2008 - 05:01:09pm
My grandchildren were taken away from their mother at birth, I wanted custody of them, but I was told by CPS and a judge that I had no right to them just because I was the grandparent. They were put up for adoption behind my back. I was hung up on, and even threatened by these people many times. I am raising the sister of the boys, and I was told if I did not back off they would find a way to remove her from my home. The boys were sold, the money is all they were interested in. I know the judge put a fair amount in their pockets, and the social workers get a fair amount, the adoptive parent gets a very small amount compared to CPS, judges, county counsel and state adoption agency. Its all about the money, babies for sale, especially White blue-eyed babies that bring big federal dollars to these agencies. Yet our Senators and Congressman look the other way. The Clintons are responsible for this...Bill Clinton signed our children away when he was in office. The CPS where I live adopts out hundreds of children a month, from poor; and homeless parents, the Judge in Madera County, has no regard for parents, and especially not grandparents. She considers them nothing but a bother to her. She won't even allow them in court. This is a very sick system, I can't believe it goes on in America, so much for freedom. I was even told by an adoption worker that children born today belong to the state - the parents are only allowed to raise them if it is done our way. This I believe. It is a fact, yet we sit and do nothing. WHY?
Name:
Allison Sowers
Location:
Thomasville, NC
Comment:
0947
Friday, 4 April 2008 - 01:47:13pm
As an adoptee, I'm outraged that my rights are restricted for life. I made a small amount of progress in getting information (that should be MINE automatically) but the agent with whom I dealt built a roadblock...and the additional info I was requesting wasn't guarded by any privacy laws; she just didn't want to take the time or make the effort to help me. My birth family tried to keep tabs on me when I was a baby, but the agency discouraged them, and they finally stopped trying. All they wanted was a baby picture to give to my dying grandfather who wasn't able to travel to see me when I was born. I pray this makes a difference to someone else someday.
Name:
Holly Dotson Email:
Location:
Claremore, Ok U.S.A.
Comment:
0946
Tuesday, 18 March 2008 - 07:34:53pm
I am an adopted child who was raised on welfare and left home at an early age to find a better life and I did. I have no knowledge of my medical history or anything because they sealed my records. I have a life...I want to know who had me... where did I live and what about my immunizations? I do not even have a shot record but I can see I have had a small pox vaccination. How is this a way to put meaning to our past if it is a closed book? I hope a change comes to this issue of sealed adoptions!
Name:
S. Morley Email:
Location:
Highland, MI USA
Comment:
0945
Saturday, 15 March 2008 - 01:55:46am
It's time to end child trafficking practices in the US.
Name:
Cassandra Email:
Location:
Akwesasne, NY USA
Comment:
0944
Tuesday, 11 March 2008 - 10:23:58pm
ADOPTION NEEDS AMENDMENT!! I was illegally adopted by a sociopathic child molester who failed two psych evaluations with other adoption agencies. THE COURTS ALLOWED THIS WOMAN TO TAKE ME HOME EVEN THOUGH THEY KNEW IT WAS AN ILLEGAL ADOPTION. Luckily I've found the information I will need to reverse this situation. But I didn't find it in time to keep two of my children from being molested as well. The state of Massachusetts was supposed to review the adoption and finalize. They never did, and I found out 42 years too late. My adoptive family was wealthy. Money can by anything. If you have it, you can get away with murder, rape, incest, AND ILLEGAL ADOPTION. Things need to change immediately.
Name:
michelle marquiess Email:
Location:
ft.worth, tx. u.s.a
Comment:
0943
Saturday, 8 March 2008 - 01:15:14pm
I am a victim due to adoption....
Name:
annette edwards Email:
Location:
la puente, ca. los angeles
Comment:
0942
Saturday, 8 March 2008 - 01:13:25pm
Definitely agree!!!!!I am a victim of adoption, now the state is trying to make my kids be victims also. The courts talk so much on breaking cycles- Well their the ones to talk!!! (Don't ever visit California).
Name:
Catherine Courtney Email:
Location:
tacoma, wa. U.S.A.
Comment:
0941
Thursday, 28 February 2008 - 04:40:16pm
Adoption should be abolished immediately. Aren't there any attorney's around who can initiate a class action suit? The violations of basic human, constitualional, and civil rights are just so obvious, any attorney should be able to do it. Some Latin American countries think Americans are adopting their children to use for spare body parts. I can't confirm or deny that, but the system is so rotten nothing horrible would surprise me. Catherine Courtney
Name:
Babyannie0304@yahoo.com Email:
Location:
Springfield, missouri United States
Comment:
0940
Thursday, 28 February 2008 - 08:24:36am
my mother and ex husbands aunt stole my children....my house burnt down and they put me in a home and told the state i had abandoned them its been 13 years does anyone know if i have any rights? they were adopted by my mom and his aunt
Name:
Morgan Carroll Email:
Location:
Wethersfield, CT USA
Comment:
0939
Wednesday, 27 February 2008 - 04:06:37pm
Being adopted has profoundly affected me. I feel a deep personal sadness. It's just not right for a person to have no personal history, and to have to pay huge sums of money just to get NON identifying information is a SLAP in the face of humanity.
Name:
Dave A. Rossetti Email:
Location:
Moultonborough, NH USA
Comment:
0938
Thursday, 14 February 2008 - 08:16:56pm
HELP! For all the good people in America that don’t think bad things happen to good people, let me share my story with you in hopes that I may help arm you with some knowledge that I wish I had before calling the NH Division of heath and human services- specifically DCYF, the DIVISION of Children, Youths, and Families...
Name:
Teri Shaffer Email:
Location:
St. Petersburg, Fl. USA
Comment:
0937
Saturday, 9 February 2008 - 09:18:15am
Adoption should be outlawed in our country. Children belong to their biological parents forever and should be encouraged to stay a family.
Name:
Thomas Orr Email:
Location:
Syracuse, New York United States
Comment:
0936
Friday, 18 January 2008 - 06:28:43pm
My granddaughter was abducted by a group of agencies, people, and my wife, by bullying my daughter, withholding information, providing mis-information, and outright lies. The whole climate is so rigged to take advantage of young women who are so vunerable and scared. We need to change the status quo so that these young women are able to be "mommies" like they are meant to be.
It's time to stop the madness. If a child is truly an orphan.. maybe then it would be ok..
Name:
Elizabeth Gellatly
Location:
Newport Beach, Ca USA
Comment:
0933
Monday, 24 December 2007 - 08:53:10am
I'm a mother whose life was ravenged by having lost my child to adoption in 1968. I was 15 and scared out of my right mind- and was told that if I loved my son I would let someone else raise him so his life would be wonderful. I was never able to reconcile this action, and still suffer, as if I had committed a most heinous crime, which in my heart, giving away your own flesh and blood truly is. It is as if I had cut off my arm and have had to look at the stub each day of my life. We wouldn't cut off our limbs to help another amputee would we? So why does it make sense to give away our own flesh and blood? They told us all that this was the right thing to do. I want to bring a lawsuit against those perpetrators who stole our children from us- NOW- even this many years later. My son is a stranger to me now. After forty years without me, I can certainly understand that- but it did not have to be- and I had no choice and so my life is one long ache until I finally die. How can anyone justify this? My life took a horrible turn for the worst as soon as the papers were signed. I married a drunk, abusive man at the age of 16 because no one could talk about this incident and this man told me that he was the only person who would be able to stand me- because I was damaged goods- at age 15! My life was taken from me. My child was taken from me. I had to hide and lie and be ashamed for forty years! How is this a good system? It never ends. I am functional on the outside, I am educated now, and I could have been back then too- if someone had given me a fighting chance. I am a good person and I am fantastic with children- the irony! I work with children and every day I see all the stages of these children's lives while I could not be part of my own child's life. The pain and suffering do not end with reunion. It is very difficult to see your child, whom you know nothing about, standing in front of you, while he is wondering what he is doing there, wondering who you are...wondering Are you crazy? Are you a monster? Why did you give him away? If he likes you, then he is mad that you gave him away. If he doesn't like you, then he thanks you for not making him stay with you because he had a better life without you. All painful. No win. Issues all around. We need to sue these people as the Catholic Church was sued for allowing child molesters to take similar life-altering advantage of young children using their authority and power wrongly and for personal gain.
Name:
Virginia Merrill OConnell Email:
Location:
haverhill, ma usa
Comment:
0932
Sunday, 23 December 2007 - 08:32:19pm
Adoption is about infertile couples and others wanting children for their own reasons, not children needing parents. Adults filling their own needs at the expense of a child.
Name:
CC Tillett Email:
Location:
Tracyton, WA.
Comment:
0931
Sunday, 23 December 2007 - 07:33:41am
I have never liked the thought of adoption. It makes my blood run cold. My nephew was adopted out to strangers even though many family members, including myself, have passed the DSHS background check. I fought this system like a "She Bear." I have just about lost everything. I wonder about him every day. Especially about his mental well being. He was extremly attached to his mom. I became an advocate for WashingtonFamiliesUnited.org and have started to advocate for changes. The system moves slowly. Adoption ruins just about everything it touches.
Name:
Stella Solomons Email:
Location:
Kensington, London Britain
Comment:
0930
Sunday, 16 December 2007 - 06:48:16am
Blood is thicker than water. The apple never falls far from the tree. Inherited family traits can be summed up as a child being a chip of the old block. These sayings point out kinship. I like to think it's okay to share them here.
Adoption is one of the harshest matters for anyone to deal with. There is no such thing as a "good adoption."
Name:
quinn berry Email:
Location:
victoria, bc canada
Comment:
0928
Saturday, 8 December 2007 - 08:39:50am
Adoption can easily be replaced by guardianship. It's a matter of truth versus lies that are usually a part of adoption, legally santioned. Most adopted persons oppose the secrecy. For those who enjoy secrecy, at least do not impose it on others or try to make their views flasely appear to be a majority view. It affects the adopted more than birth parents or anyone else.
Name:
Grace Cordeaux Email:
Location:
St. Petersburg, Florida United States
Comment:
0927
Wednesday, 5 December 2007 - 07:05:44pm
Placing my son up for adoption was the biggest mistake. I was lied to, coerced, and was not informed of my rights. The so-called "Christian" attorney, Russel Meade, lied to me... I went back to get my son 3 days after I did sign the papers (including counting the weekend days). The attorney's legal assistant told me I had 7 days to change my mind. When I went back, Russel Mead told me there was no way I was going to get my son back. I was a naive 21- year-old college student. The law needs to be changed to protect the rights to the birth moms and birth dads. If you have any doubt about placing your child up for adoption, do not do it. I have tried to commit suicide over this at least 4 times. Thankfully, I just now found my son, and we will meet each other this month. His adopters were victims too. The attorney told them I picked out their letter from hundreds. I was never given any letters. I was told my son was going to a Christian family. My son is Jewish. My son's adopters were told I needed monthly expenses to be paid for, so they gave the attorney money every month until I had my son. I never requested any money, nor would I take money from them. I never was absolutely sure of the decision I was going to make, nor did I promised the attorney anything. By reading other women's stories who gave up their children for adoption, I am learning there are many other women out there whose stories are similar to mine. Most of the attorneys are only in it for the money, and give the child to the couple who offer the most money (rather than for child's best interests). I feel sadness the victims on all sides.
Name:
Linda A. Dana-Loflin
Location:
Fresno, CA USA
Comment:
0926
Wednesday, 5 December 2007 - 06:10:21am
I am a victim of closed adoption and it has haunted me my entire life. I never realized it would be a life sentence.
Name:
paul caudill Email:
Location:
manchester, ky clay
Comment:
0925
Tuesday, 4 December 2007 - 10:14:58pm
I AM AGAINST ALL TYPES OF ADOPTIONS
Name:
Tania Carmenate Email:
Location:
Pasadena, CA USA
Comment:
0924
Friday, 30 November 2007 - 04:25:45pm
Our sytem is in desperate need of an overhaul. While I don't believe adoption is always the answer, I do believe every human life is entitled to know his biological parents and extended families if so they choose. There should be an amendment added to the Constituion of the United Staes of America that facilitates everyone that right.The DCFS and other state, federal, and county funded agencies and their agents/employees have financial incentives to remove innocent children from their parents and expose them to a system where they more often than not end up in a much worse situation. Social workers, judges, court appointed counsel all work and are paid by the same entity which creates an obvious conflict of interest; and they ALL lie and perjure themselves under oath with no repercussions. Children's Court makes a mockery of our judicial system,and grossly violates our due procedural rights.
Name:
janie
Location:
san antonio, tx usa
Comment:
0923
Tuesday, 27 November 2007 - 02:41:21pm
I am a birth mother, coerced to lose her baby to adoption. My pain has been so profound. Adoption agencies lie for profit. It's cruel and inhumane.
Name:
Patrick Hewitt Email:
Location:
Burtchville, Michigan USA
Comment:
0922
Monday, 26 November 2007 - 04:19:49am
I'm an adoptee, and I definately think adoption NEEDS TO BE ABOLISHED! We have no rights!
Name:
Diane Miller
Location:
Rockville, MD USA
Comment:
0921
Tuesday, 20 November 2007 - 08:31:13am
I am a natural mother who was forced to relinquish my daughter in 1974. As a result of being adopted my daughter has so many emotional issues and is in so much turmoil that she would not have been in had I raised her. I also suffered years of silent mourning for my lost child and to this day, 3 years after reunion am still not able to deal well with the anger I feel for those who forced me to relinquish my daughter 33 years ago. Adoption is not an option.
I was adopted, and i would like to be able to find my birth mother and have not been able to do so despite searching for information. This is terrible that records are closed to adults. it is as though a part of my real life is missing. records should be opened, and people should not be forced to miss a part of their life when it is not their choice to have missed that part of their lives.
Name:
michael colbath Email:
Location:
eugene, or. usa
Comment:
0919
Wednesday, 7 November 2007 - 00:09:34am
i hate the fact that other people can see my records and i cannot . you go through life just not belonging . my sister (not blood) was also adopted - we were raised together , but no longer talk or write .there is not any connection there .
Name:
Jennifer waln Email:
Location:
cheyenne, wyoming united states
Comment:
0918
Tuesday, 30 October 2007 - 12:31:07pm
I am one of the lucky "chosen". I am 52 years old and feel I will never quite know and understand what I am all about....how could I?? It's like my biological parents died the day I was born. Are they still alive???Do they know I was very well taken care of and loved unconditionally???Do they know that some of the things I do...I do just like them???Do I know if they think about me on my Birth date??? They were unwed....I assume a forced adoption. What a taboo and embarrassment for their parents back in the 50's... Did their young love survive the trauma of it all, are they still together or go their own way?? The questions go on and on and I will never know and they will never know...They named me,but they don't know my name as it is now. My birthday will be arriving soon....Thank Heaven for my beautiful "adoptive mother"...(I hate that term) I will hear from her. I hope some day I will have the pleasure of hearing from both of my Mothers. The common question at the Dr's office...Does anyone in your family have any inherited illnesses???GEE, I'm adopted, I don't know what I may be up against...I pray I won't ever need my biological families help concerning a life and death situation. I am entitled to the right to live.
Name:
Jacquelyn Portee Email:
Location:
Columbia, S.C. USA
Comment:
0917
Monday, 22 October 2007 - 09:25:18pm
Hi, Please add my name to your list. I have two children in the system a 3 year old boy and 10 year old girl. The foster parent that has my son wants to have him adopted before I am able to get my appeals process going. I am also fighting to have my TPR case overturned and need all support I can get against these greedy State Gestapos.
Name:
dyani lea marez Email:
Location:
phoenix, az usa
Comment:
0916
Sunday, 21 October 2007 - 00:32:57am
i miss my two daughters sachine and kioni marez... i havent seen them for 4 years because DHS of klamath falls oregon wrongfully took and adopted my children out because i was a victim of domestic violence
Name:
christie coleman Email:
Location:
little rock, ar pulaski
Comment:
0915
Friday, 19 October 2007 - 11:39:51pm
my adopted family and i have never got along. i never was accepted. when i turned 24 i wanted to find out who my birth mother was. i only got a little information on my birth mother. it was not how to contact her. it was like a big joke. please open the records
Name:
vickie bach Email:
Location:
crystal river, fla us
Comment:
0914
Wednesday, 10 October 2007 - 00:01:44am
was promised pictures and yearly updates. haven't recieved any in 7 years. she is now 12 years old
Name:
exotic pet Email:
Location:
colorado, colorado
Comment:
0913
Sunday, 7 October 2007 - 11:47:01pm
I never felt loved by anybody being adopted
Name:
Natalie Ayers-Holmes Email:
Location:
Cottonwood, AZ USA
Comment:
0912
Sunday, 7 October 2007 - 03:26:40pm
Please hear our voices and abolish this barbaric practice. The only people who are truly served by adoption are the adoptive parents at the top of this sick triangle. The pain and hurt travels down to children who are allowed to believe that they were not wanted; and the young parents -- the real parents -- are not allowed to grieve or to acknowledge their great loss.
Name:
Amanda Email:
Location:
Harrisonburg, VA United States
Comment:
0911
Sunday, 7 October 2007 - 01:45:50am
I am a transracial adoptee and my parents disowned me when I made it clear that I am going to marry a black man.
Name:
DIANE BARNES Email:
Location:
glenrothes, fife scotland
Comment:
0910
Saturday, 22 September 2007 - 03:14:32pm
i support you 100%.i lost a son to adoption in 67 the pain and suffering we have we carry all through life. my son found and met me then it all stopped....no word since jan 2004.
Name:
Danielle McLaughlin Email:
Location:
Meridian, ID America
Comment:
0909
Saturday, 22 September 2007 - 04:52:03am
I feel and have always felt threatened by my life with my illegal or legal gaurdianship holders. Does or should it matter? I am 19 and would be 20 on November 15, 2007 according to the birth certificate I've been shown. Can or will you help?
Name:
Laura Evans-DeSmidt Email:
Location:
Kill Devil Hills, NC United States
Comment:
0908
Friday, 21 September 2007 - 01:23:49pm
One day, two of my friends were talking, I was more just listening, and they expressed anger over the practice of adoption. I had always felt that something was wrong with it, but had never really thought about it, nor seriously contemplated it until that day. I have wanted to get together with them again to converse further on the subject, to find out what exactly, their misgivings were. This has been near the forefront of my mind ever since. Finally, today, I did a search "against adoption," finding this website and petition. Reading these people's comments verified my instincts about this inhumane industry.
Name:
phyllis lawson Email:
Location:
fulton, mo usa
Comment:
0907
Wednesday, 19 September 2007 - 06:29:19pm
my 3 granddaughters were adopted out by the dfs to a family with 4 other adopted children now we have lost all contact with them since. i guestioned dfs about what i found out about this family...as result,we have been made out to be the problem cause i spoke the truth. my husband & i wanted to adopt them, but the dfs fought us because of our age & health. please if anyone knows how we can visit them let us know.
Name:
John P. Tenikat Sr. Email:
Location:
Des Moines,, Ia. USA
Comment:
0906
Monday, 17 September 2007 - 09:16:42pm
In 1966, while I was in the U.S. Army, my then-girlfriend, Helen, gave birth to our son CJ. (Helen named him after her brother Carl and me.) It was only her business man brother and his attorney that stood between us losing CJ or retaining him. Carl's attorney filed and got cease and desist orders for the social worker/adoption agency and the social worker who contacted the couples. The agency stood to get a "donation" of up to $20,000 from the parents of the husbands so that they would not be subject to the draft. ( All four had flunked out of college and had passed their physicals. Their marriages were basically "marriages of convienience", and they couldn't get their wives pregnant fast enough.) This is why I oppose adoption!
Name:
DIANE BARNES Email:
Location:
GLENROTHES, SCOTLAND UK
Comment:
0905
Tuesday, 11 September 2007 - 01:12:55pm
ADOPTION SHOULD BE ABOLISHED --SOONER RATHER THAN LATER. ADOPTION TEARS FAMILIES APART FOREVER...EVEN REUNIONS MAKE NO DIFFERANCE. I AM A NATURAL MOTHER, NOT A BIRTH MOTHER -- THAT TERM IS DERROGATORY TO WOMAN. DIANE BARNES
Name:
Raquel Lubowski
Location:
Rome, Ga USA
Comment:
0904
Tuesday, 11 September 2007 - 06:08:22am
As an adoptee, I was glad to find this website. I was adopted in the US and raised in South America. This transfer to a different culture created even more problems in understanding life and my place in it. There are better options to adoption and laws need to be changed to allow us to find our birth families. Maybe then we can start healing and understanding our own pasts.
Hello, you made a excellent website with a good goal. I hope that the site will grow and you can reach your aims. Thank you very much. Peter Casino
Name:
Kathy Bygott Email:
Location:
cardinal, ontario canada
Comment:
0902
Tuesday, 4 September 2007 - 02:48:13am
I am a mother that recently was forced to give my 2 amazing kids up for "open adoption" to my aunt and uncle who promised things would be good "because we are family." It has been one year and I have barely seen my children who live less than 45 minutes away from me and I have since married and had another child with my husband...But because my older 2 children's father was abusive, and I was alone and had no help, I was told that I could not protect them and had no choice but to give them up for adoption...I have suffered every minute of every day since the day I signed the papers and if there was a way to change it all I would in a heartbeat...I love my kids and I think adoption is cruel and not fair to the children at all!!!!
