The Only Totally FREE
DONOR OFFSPRING, PARENT & SIBLING REGISTRY
TIPS FOR OFFSPRING & DONORS
IMPORTANT: Suggesting to clinic staff and/or doctor who performed the procedure that they refer searching Donor Offspring and Donor Parents to this Registry at AmFOR.net/DonorOffspring will increase "matches."
This free Registry has had many successful, happy matches for several years without problem. In the Donor world, one or both parties may wish information while remaining anonymous, so adding restrictions for Registry access can decrease chances of matches. "Secure" sites that require User ID/Password, like Facebook and your personal email, are still publicly accessible to scammers. Even emails warning about an alleged "donor imposter" scammers could be from a scammer. So use common sense if contacted by not volunteering personal info beyond what is needed for your post, until provided with PROOF of biological relationship via simple DNA test avalable via online website (see DNA links, below). Questions? Contact firstname.lastname@example.org. "Like" us on Facebook at Facebook.com/DonorOffspringRegistry.
To SEARCH the REGISTRY, if your Toolbar has "EDIT," just click "EDIT," then on the menu that drops down Click "Find or Replace" option, and a search field should appear. Type in key words, such as the Name of the ferto;poty doctor or clinic, City, Donor #, Date. TO POST to REGISTRY, type dates as follows to make it easier to search he Registry for a date: 01-05-1985
TIPS FOR OFFSPRING:
1) Donor conceved Offspring will need to ask their parent(s) for the name and location of the Sperm Bank, Fertility Clinic or Doctor and the Donor's number. ... and any description of the Donor that may have been provided. Parents may need to contact the place of conception for the Donor's number. if the clinic has a policy or procedure to enable contact with your Donor, or at least for "non-identifying information" (even if you have a physical description--dont mention that, just see what they will provide) as it may be helpful for posting to this Registry. If not, request that your notarized statement "waiving your confidentiality" for the stated purpose be placed in your parents' file. If the clinic or doctor is out of business, you need to ask the local "Medical Society" or "Satate Medical Board" what happened to their files or how to find out, which, by law in some states, must be stored somewhere for a specific period of time. Inform the clinic or doctor to refer Donor and Offspring to this Registry at AmFOR.net/DonorOffspring .
2) Or....check your birth certificate for name of hospital and delivering physician and request from the hospital and also from the doctor the "complete record on mother and newborn" DON'T say anything about being Donor Conceived if the delivery doctor is ot the fertility doctor, so it will be a routie records request. It's your record--ask for it as anyone would ask for their own record on the chance that there may be a notation about whoever performed the insemination or implant procedure and where etc..
3) If contacted regarding your post, don't give any stranger who believes they may be a "match" any personal information beyond what you've posted, without first requiring proof that he or she has DNA test results, even if they have records to share, or wait til they do have a test and you have a DNA test to match up. A legitimate Donor will know and understand what you both need to do to be safe from a scammer…
TIPS FOR DONORS:
1) A sperm or egg Donor has no rights or responsibilities for any children that are born as a result of his/her sperm/egg donation. The children born from your donations have no legal or financial interest in you. But you both have a moral interest in providing each other with medical and social information that may not have been known or collected at time of donation, same as non-donor children are entitled to and both parties have benefitted from disclosure, just as adoptees and their biological parents have. Adoptees in many states now have automatic access by law to adoptees' bio-parents' identities when the adoptee is legal age, but laws haven't caught up with Donor Offsprings' similar need and right to know, despite that the Ethics Committee of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) favors disclosure. And so, at this writing, most states" leave it up to the Parents" even when offspring are adults,though more and more parents, themselves are on this Registry seeking answers nowadays. A Donor need not reveal his/her identity, just a simple DNA test and non-identifying information, but it is in the best interests of you both to do so.. And while some Fertility Centers have a procedure for enabling contact, the only option in most cases is a Registry such as this one. In any case, you are not breaking any law by posting or responding to a post for contact.
2) The Registry can be your first or second option for exchange of disclosures when you want to know HOW MANY offspring you may have helped conceive or any HEALTH ISSUES that could affect your future children. Yoy have a right to know.. But usually the Clinic has no record of HOW MANY offspring were created and has no idea how the children fared. But YOU KNOW what doctor or clinic. If they are still in business, you can request their current policy for enabling non-identifying or identifying information. If no set procedure, but you prefer to go through the Clinic as "intermediary" and they will do that, ask that your notarized letter stating that you waive your confidentiality for the stated purpose be placed in the file of the parents of your offspring. However, adoptees' experience has shown that intermediaries cannot adequately convey what YOU and the other person wishes to convey. In any case, inform the clinic or doctor of this Registry at AmFOR.net/DonorOffspring so they can refer others to this option.
3) Obtain a DNA test (see Links below) in order to substantiate your biological relationship to the satisfaction of the offspring who, in turn, will need a DNA test to be certian of a match. This also eilminates concern about Donor or Offspring "imposters" with unclear motives that have occasionally been reported on Facebook and all registries with either paid or free access, whether or not they require User ID and Password.
HOW TO LOCATE SOMEONE USING NAME SEARCH:
The easiest way to locate anyone for FREE is (1) if you know their full name. and it's not too common a last name with first and middle name or middle iniial, as they may be listed on an online directory such as the one I've always had good luck with WhitePages.com. (2) If the name is not listed, a complete and inexpensive guide to finding anyone anywhere in the is THE ULTIMATE SEARCH BOOK at AmFOR.net/UltimateSearch which shares search secrets on how even adoptee and parent can locate each other even without a name to start. and it can be helpful for Donors and Offspring also. Be aware that online "search services" such as People Search and Intellius can only provide same-name listings with addresses and they may not be current.
AFFORDABLE DNA TESTING
When a Donor, and/or Offspring, and/or Parent believe they have found a "match" on the Registry, a simple DNA test is available inexpensively by Googling for DNA test labs or check out the following:
- DNA TESTS ($99 Autosomal) - 23andMe.com
- Family Tree DNA ($60 Autosomal) - FamilyTreeDNA.com
- Ancestry.com ($99 Autosomal and Y-Chromosome)- Ancestry.com
- Home DNA Testing - www.homedna.com/paternity_test.php?gclid=CPHqnq2H7rsCFcJ0QgodqH0AKg
- DNA Testing by Mail listings - www.gtldna.com/RelationshipTesting/DNA-Paternity-Testing.htm
- UPLOAD DNA Test Results (just from 23andMe) - GedMatch.com
- U.K. DNA Testing - www.easydna.co.uk
A special THANK YOU to CHRIS CHIPPS for keeping Spam from our Registry! Chris is mother of LIZ, her 19-year old donor-conceived daughter (If you're CLI Donor #1073 - contact CHRIS at email@example.com). While also checking our Registry daily for a possible "Match" in hope of finding some of her daughter's paternal relatives, CHRIS has found "matches" for others on our Registry that they didn't realize had occurred!
"This has been so gratifying that I'm 'addicted' and if there were a job where I could be paid enough to do this, I'd quit my current job in a heartbeat! "
- CHRIS CHIPPS (-:
MORE ONLINE RESOURCES
Mega Resources Page by Category - (by Matt Doran) http://DonorChildren.com/Resources http://DonorChildren.com/Resources
AmFOR's Donor Offspring Blog page is linked at http://Facebook.com/DonorOffspringRegistry http://Facebook.com/DonorOffspringRegistry
- American Association of Tissue Banks - www.aatb.org
- American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) - www.asrm.org
- California Cryobank - www.cryobank.com
- Chicago Women's Health Center (Bank)- www.chicagowomenshealthcenter.org
- Donor Offspring Group - DonorOffspring.com
- Donor Children - www.facebook.com/donorchildren?notif_t=fbpage_fan_invite
- Donor Offspring Health page - donoroffspringhealth.com
- Donor Sibling Registry - www.donorsiblingregistry.com ($75/mo or $175 one-time fee - 40,000+ claimed members (not all active so inactive posters will not be able to receive your emails unless they pay and renew).
- Donor Conceved Register (UK) - www.donorconceivedregister.org.uk
- Fairfax Cryobank (Bank)- www.fairfaxcryobank.com
- Everything Surrogacy - all on one web-site: Surrogacy Agency Directory, Egg Donation Service Directory, and Attorney Directory, IVF Directory - everythingsurrogacy.com
- DonorLink (UK) (National Voluntary Info Exchange and Contact Register www.ukdonorlink.org.uk
- Donor Conception (Pre-1991) http://www.fairfaxcryobank.com
- Midwest Sperm Bank - www.midwestspermbank.com
- People Conceived by Artificial Insemination (PCVAI) - health.groups.yahoo.com/group/PCVAI/
- Sperm Donor Group - health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SpermDonors/?yguid=3457069
- The Adoption & Donor Conception Factbook - AmFOR.net/AdoptionFactbook/
- The Ultimate Search Book - AmFOR.net/UltimateSearch
- "Why People Need To Know" by Olivia Montuschi, Donor Conception Network - freespace.virgin.net/dcnet.website/ARTICLES/daughters-story.htm
FERTILITY DOCTORS WHO USED THEIR OWN SPERM TO IMPREGNATE WOMEN PATIENTS, WITHOUT THE WOMEN'S KNOWLEDGE
from "Statistics of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction" (AmFOR.net/Statistics.html)
- BARWIN, Bernard Norman (3 babies,total unknown,Toronto, CANADA), Huffington Post 1-31-13
- JACOBSON, Cecil (70-75 babies conceived, Salt Lake City, UTAH), LA Times 2-23-94
- FRONTIER, Quincy (4-6 babies, total unknown, NEVADA), Las Vegas Review Journal 8-26-07
- LEPPERT, Thomas R. (2 babies, possibly 100s, Salt Lake City, UTAH), MailOnline 1-13-14 IVF Clinic employee 1988-1993
- RAUMALEY, Ben (1 baby known, total unknown, CONNECTICUT), Huff Post 3-8-10
- SANTOMAURO, Anthony claimed error-- inseminated a Black woman with White donor sperm instead of Black fiance’s sperm, New Haven, CONNECTICUT), WTNH TV, 7-9-04
- WIESNER, Bertold P. (600-1,000 babies conceived, London, UK), The Telegraph 4-8-12
How the "Conception Deception" Impacts the Children
by Lia Vandersant <firstname.lastname@example.org>
My partner donated sperm when he was young and two years ago saw a picture of a young girl on the front page of a national newspaper (in Australia). She was the product of a sperm donation and was looking for her father. My partner recognized the profile as his and the picture of the young girl (then 20) as his daughter. She also has a brother from the same donor. There are three other daughters out there somewhere.
..... We believe the offspring are into denial because of the awesome loyalty and dependence these children feel towards their only parent (the mother).
When my partners donor daughter speaks out against DI she is invariably told that she is not grateful for her life and she must be experiencing deeper life problems and using DI as a scapegoat. The same arguments are hurled at us when we openly support her arguments.
This form of abuse acts as an effective 'gag' for any other donor offspring to come forward against the practice. Even the ones who are openly opposed to DI rarely post in our group since they are so emotionally battered by parents and donors who so vehemently support DI.
We are constantly being appealed to 'feel' for the plight of infertile couples who are being joined in droves by 'single mothers by choice' and the gay and lesbian couples who all believe they are entitled to the same 'rights' as 'fertile' people.
Our loss is your gain because adoption is not an option for these people since they claim that the selection criteria for adoption is too strict, adoption too expensive and the wait too long. DI is seen as a quick, easy and cheap 'fix'. They refuse to consider the cost to the child, their main argument being that because the baby is 'loved and wanted' the child will not miss knowing the other parent or half their family. Many donors use the high rates of paternity fraud as a good argument in favor of DI (go figure).
Having entered this arena I have learned a lot about adoption and fully support your stance against adoption. This is all a lucrative trade in human beings, too young and vulnerable to defend themselves, and every aspect of it should be banned.
I would say that right now we are about where you found yourself in the early 70's and I just wanted to let you know that you, your efforts, your website and the level of discussion are a real inspiration for us to continue with our efforts to ban DI.
"Out of 19 donor offspring surveyed, all 19 said they felt unloved."|
-Australian survey, 2001
DONOR OFFSPRING ETHICS & FEELINGS
CBS-60 Minutes explored the ethics of today's infertility solutions by interviewing now-adult "designer babies"-- donor offspring whose donors had been selected for their IQ and talents. They said the pressure of their parents' expectations that they would become like their anonymous fathers who they could not meet caused them to suppress any such inclinations instead.
What we're getting instead of reproduction is production and making babies consumer products according to the customer's shopping list of genetic traits. Just one sperm bank in California reports production of 30,000 babies per year.
FAMILIES ON THE CUSP OF AN UNCHARTED REALM
"As they approach 18, the children of women who patronized a pioneering sperm bank face the choice of learning their donor fathers' identities. .....The children born to women who have patronized the Sperm Bank of California since feminists founded it in Oakland in 1982 have been offered an unprecedented option: disclosure of the donor's identity when the child crosses the legal threshold of adulthood.
The nonprofit sperm bank, founded primarily to help lesbians and single straight women to fulfill maternal goals, has helped the conception of more than 1,100 children. Roughly four out of five clients have chosen the donor ID release option, officials say.
So far, three children who were conceived under the agreement have turned 18, one of whom has requested and received her father's identity.....Before the year is out, 15 other children of the bank's donors will turn 18. Within three years, the total will approach 100...."
RULING IN SAN FRANCISCO DONOR OFFSPRING LAWSUIT
"Anonymous sperm donors don't have unlimited right to privacy." An 11 year old Santa Barbara girl, Brittany Johnson, a donor offspring with a kidney disorder, won the right to information from a California Cryobank about her donor father. Her attorney was Walter Koontz and the attorney for the Cryobank/donor father was Gary Bostwich.
DONOR OFFSPRING LAWSUIT CITES STATISTICS
A woman and
a child who were conceived using sperm from anonymous donors will begin
a High Court action next week to try to discover more about their genetic
All sperm and egg donors
would be able voluntarily to enter their names on a central register with
details of when and where they made the donation. Donor offspring could
then check the register to find their genetic parent.
Ms Sawyer said that donors should be required to update records with details of any medical conditions they develop after donating their sperm or eggs. The register could also enable donor offspring who developed medical conditions to warn their genetic parents. Donors whose natural children developed a medical condition that required tissue donation might also benefit from being able to contact donor offspring to see whether they would donate blood or tissue.
Donors have no financial obligations towards their offspring.
ASSISTED CONCEPTION: THE FACTS
* From the age of 16, donor offspring conceived after the 1990 Act can check with the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority whether they are related to someone they want to marry. At 18 they can ask if they were conceived by means of donated egg or sperm.
* Many donor offspring have no idea that they were born as a result of assisted conception. Surveys from the 1980s showed that 75 per cent of such parents decide not to tell their children; more recent research from City University in London shows that the figure may have fallen to 25 per cent.
* The Department of Health is consulting on whether to remove donor anonymity. Submissions are requested by July 2002. The Government's response will be published in February 2003.
* Countries that have already removed donor anonymity are Sweden, Austria, The Netherlands and Switzerland. The state of Victoria and a clinic in California also allow offspring to trace donors.
* Research among donor offspring in California suggests that 85 per cent would like to trace their genetic parents at some point.
The case next week will decide whether the Human Rights Act is applicable. The remainder of the cases will not be considered until after the publication of the Government's consultation next year.
ADOPTSPEAK and EMBRYO ADOPTION
In "Now British Couples Can Adopt An Embryo" (Evening Standard,
As in all adoption parlance, embryo adoption relies on creative terminology. The child's parents become "donors" providing "gifts" of sperm and eggs through a "procedure" to dehumanize the child ("product"). Selling a product, or property, is a marketing concept that's easier for some to swallow than the less palatable reality that it's baby selling according to supply and demand of the marketplace.
UK Documentary on Searching for One's Biological Father/Mother
...I am a documentary filmmaker currently working on a series of
for a major UK channel on the subject of donor anonymity. The aim is to
the efforts of those who are fighting to discover more about their
...Next spring the UK Government will react to the high (supreme) court
that the continuance of donor anonymity in the UK was a breach of the
Convention on Human Rights. I am very keen to speak with as many
possible in order to understand the feelings and experiences of donor
offspring and their families.... Any other information about your
efforts in the
States and worldwide would also be greatly appreciated. Yours
IVF EGG DONORS 'RISKING THEIR HEALTH'
"Experts called on [UK] regulators to reconsider the case for women anonymously donating their genetic material, given the health risks they may face in later life. A proposal to outlaw such altruistic donations was made by an eminent group of clinicians who suggest that it is neither ethically nor medically sound to allow women to donate their eggs. 'The long-term risks are poorly understood, and as the donor has no therapeutic or pecuniary benefit in risk taking, the practice of altruistic egg donation may become ethically suspect. We can't ignore the fact that it carries risks. Firstly, there is the general anaesthetic when the eggs are collected. Secondly, we don't yet know what the long-term cancer risks are for women whose ovaries have been stimulated in this way."
Complete story: http://www.observer.co.uk/ uk_news/story/0,6903,892004,00.html
U.K. ADULT ADOPTEES HAVE "RIGHT TO KNOW,"
Under the Children's Act in the United Kingdom, children's interests are paramount. In the U.K., adult adoptees are permitted their true birth certificates but over 30,000 donor offspring in the U.K. are not permitted disclosure as to the identity of their donor parent. Worldwide, it is estimated that less that only 25% of donor offspring have even been informed that they have a donor parent. The basic ethical and legal issues, which are also of enormous interest to American adoptees as well as American donor offspring, concerns the right not to be deceived or deprived of essential information about one's own history and "using" a child for the ends of the parents to conceal infertility. The following link will take you to "Should Sperm Donors Be Identified?" and a previous BBC radio broadcast of an excellent debate that you can hear on your computer, by a panel of eloquent children's rights activists including an attorney who is, himself, a donor offspring-- http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/news/ thecommission_20020925.shtml
WEB OF CONCEPTION
Couples turning to Internet sites to secure donated sperm. "People like to buy educated sperm," said Dr. Joanne Kaminski, director of Midwest Sperm Bank, who likens the search for the right sperm to shopping for a new car.